Need help with hot flashes

I cannot find the place to post but i literally hate everyone. I turned 50 yesterday and had my period so it is not leaving-it is on time and I will not be in menopause at 51. So when will i go through menopause? I feel annoyed by everyone. I use a cream that seemed to work for three months now it is not working anymore but the stress in my life greatly increased so that could be why. I am just wondering if anyone else feels like they cannot stand the idiosyncrasies of others. Or cultural differences. I am not 80 but I am like my grandfather-I cannot stand anyone. And things about other cultures and religions and the men and their attitudes make me so angry-with their negative attitudes and abuse towards women. I was in a Muslim country for a month and I hated it. I will not travel to those countries anymore because I feel the injustice of the men and their misogynist attitudes so I am acutely aware now of social injustices towards women and i will not tolerate them. It is much more pronounced. Just 3 years ago I could appreciate the beauty of a country and ignore the men. Now I cannot I am so irritated ny them-and I am glad I woke Up but i hate feeling irritated.And now more than ever i am a conservative. I am grateful for that but i wish I could have the opinion and not feel the irritation.By the way venlafaxine prevents hot flashes. It is also known as effexor. I have taken antidepressants for years and I have no hot flashes and no other perimenopause symptoms except the annoyance and that is not caused by the antidepressant. I was on this antidepressant before peri menopause and travelling the world and loving it. try the venlafaxine-do not go on paxil it causes hot flashes and night sweats. The sheets will be drenched. Enjoy venlafaxine or a tricyclic antidepressant do NOT go on an ssri-avoid effexor, prozac and paxil etc as they cause night sweats my sheets were drenched on paxil literally wet soaked I had to get up at 3am and change them. With venlafaxine i hae no symptoms. My annoyance my doctor said is because of estrogen fluctuation. I am not in menopause so my moods are crazy with teh wild estrogen fluctuation. I cannot wait until my estrogen levels off so I can go on hrt. I need everything to be level. Don't be afraid of antidepressants. I was just 19 when I had to start taking them. I remember looking at hte pill and being terrified-I never took medication other than antibiotics in my life. I was worried about what it would do. Now more than half my life I have taken them. Trust me they do nothave many side effects and venlafazine works I switched from paxil because my sheets were soaked. The cream that balances your hormones that I use is natural and transdermal it is called moon rise cream it is from the uk and it has helpoed me greatly for the past three months. I think it still worlks but I made the mistake of forgetting to use it for a few days and that can reaqlly throw you off.Good luck to you.